People always suppose that men are these sex-hungry creatures that go for it whenever there’s an opportunity no matter what. But that’s not the case. It’s certainly not. Men can get distracted, too, which makes it hard for them to get it up. Aside from this, there are other factors that can ruin his ability to have an erection. Here they are:
1. Distractions
As mentioned earlier, distractions brought by lack of privacy can mess with a man’s capacity to have an erection. If you can hear your neighbors arguing thanks to thin walls, that’s an automatic disturbance you can’t just ignore, hence something that your penis can’t ignore, either.
2. Condoms
According to science, some men lose their erections due to condoms. Either they start to lose their hard-on when putting the condom on or when having sex while wearing one. Of course, wearing a condom is a given, especially if you’re anxious about STDs. The only way this can be rectified is to do further stimulation since guys with this issue may need more time and stimulation to maintain their erection.
Also, it’s not just about the condom that kills a man’s buzz. It’s also the time that it takes to put one on, which causes the hardness to diminish. Possible solution to this problem is to increase arousal while wearing a condom. Plus, the notion that sex with condoms is less pleasurable gets into the minds of men and women as well. This makes people expect sex with protection to be less satisfactory. But studies have actually found that men and women still enjoy sex with condoms as much as they do without them.
3. Premature ejaculation
According to Mayo Clinic, 1 in 3 men will struggle with premature ejaculation at some point in their life. Meaning, they’ll have their orgasm in less than a minute; two minutes if they’re ‘lucky’. With this, men become anxious to have sex with their partners because of the fear that they will only disappoint them; hence, the difficulty in getting an erection. If health problems aren’t causing the premature ejaculation, products such as de-sensitizing creams or condoms can be used to delay his orgasm.
4. Poor habits
Numerous studies have suggested that smoking can damage a man’s sex drive. Even if you’re not a smoker, poor habits like excessive drinking, unhealthy diet, and physical inactivity can also contribute to your lack of stiffness. So, if you value your sexual functions and your overall sex life, you’ll try your best to lessen or even get rid of these poor lifestyle habits.
5. Stress
Anxiety can always destroy your sex drive. When you’re stressed about a deadline at work, or worried about unpaid bills, these mental and emotional burdens activate the sympathetic nervous system, making it hard for you to be sexually stimulated.
6. Excessive porn
While many people use porn to get things in the bedroom hotter and wilder, too much of it can backfire. When a guy’s mind is loaded with visuals and videos of multitudes of porn he’s watched, he can become desensitized to actual sex because he’s already gone addicted to what he sees in porn. In this case, remember that not everything you see in porn is for real. They’re just made-up to satisfy a man’s fantasy, so you should know better.
7. Pelvic floor muscles
A man’s capacity to have an erection depends on his physiological functions. So, when a part of his body involved in the entire process of sex isn’t doing well, chances are it’ll be hard for you to get hard. For instance, weak pelvic floor muscles can hinder your ability to feel desire and even let that desire manifest in the form of an erection. To remedy this, pelvic floor exercises can help to increase your stamina.
