Your girl seems to know just how to turn you on, but are you ready to turn the tables on her? Whether you’re new to the game or you just want to add some spice to your current routine, here’s how you can get your girl revved up and ready to go.
Warm her up.
The main key to turning a girl on is taking your time. As fast as guys usually get turned on, women need about that much build up. These means you’ll have to lay a little ground work and take the seduction part nice and slow. A huge part of warming her up, of course, is making her feel comfortable and safe. You’re going to see a lot of steps below about respecting her, seeking consent, and otherwise doing things that you might not think of as “turn-ons”. Don’t neglect them, they’re important. Sex is very mental for women and if you help them by making it so that they don’t have to worry, then that’s half the battle.
Be the best version of yourself.
Be the guy who’s honestly kind. Who respects her and thinks she’s more beautiful than the most picturesque sunset. Be the guy who works hard and makes it easier for her to work hard, by helping to shoulder her burdens. This will all mostly keep you from turning her off!
Carry yourself with confidence.
Everyone finds confidence sexy. Keep your shoulders straight and your chin high, and don’t be afraid to look her in the eyes. You’re communicating through your body language that you’re strong, brave, and worthy of her attention.
Start with slow, gentle touches.
You can do these in passing, at the end of a date, while you’re watching a movie, whenever — the point is that they don’t have to be saved for when you’re already making out. They can, however, indicate that you’re interested in doing a little more.
Whisper sweetly in her ear.
Ears are an erogenous zone for both sexes, and the light pressure of your breath will probably feel good. Saying the right things will also turn her on. Try something like: “I couldn’t stop thinking about you today”.
Touch the back of her neck.
You can gently run your thumb over her hairline if your arm is already around her shoulders, or offer to give her a quick neck rub. Keep your motions slow and light.
Play with her hair.
The scalp is a sensitive area for most people, and the light (repeat: light, not hard) tugging that comes from you playing with her hair will feel nice. Run your fingers through it, twirl it, or stroke it.
Touch her leg.
If you’re fairly sure it won’t be unwelcome, try laying a hand on the top of her thigh. This works best if you’re both sitting down. Let it rest there lightly. If she seems receptive, you can try slowly moving your thumb back and forth over her leg, keeping the rest of your hand where it is.